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Fall: A Routine Opportunity

Each year with the approach of fall, I begin to anticipate the return of routine. Summer is a wonderful time of freedom. As much as I cherish that, there is also comfort in knowing that fall will again bring order!

Routine is so important in all our lives, but it is exceptionally important to children. As parents, we see how easily children can be thrown off when their lives change. Although little is within their control, children persistently strive for it. Knowing what happens next allows them to feel safe and in control. We know that children learn best when they feel safe. Our job as adults is to provide an environment that nurtures this.

As parents today, we carry a heavy burden. Most of us work, and most days spend perhaps 4-5 hours with our children. These tend to be “care taking” hours. Preparing meals, shuttle time, bath time, and finally bedtime. The last thing we want is to create conflict in this short time. We’ve missed seeing them in the day, and are often tempted to spend a few more minutes with them, rather than enforce a regular bedtime. Circumstances may mean we rarely find time to sit for a family meal. Then it’s the weekend, and any schedule flies out the window!

But I keep reminding myself that children feel safer with a schedule. It is our responsibility to provide that comforting routine. The routine should include a set family time everyday. It might be a family breakfast and/or dinnertime, but whenever it is, this time should be all about family and talking together. No television or phone calls. Bedtime should be at a set time each and every night, including weekends. The bedtime routine should always be the same. For instance the routine in our home is 7 p.m. bath time, 7:30 stories, and lights out at 8:00. I do my best to maintain this schedule 7 days a week.

Knowing the routine facilitates smooth transitions for children, and minimizes conflict. We work very hard in our classrooms to help children become familiar with our daily schedule and classroom expectations. Children need our help to guide them through their day. Understanding the routine helps them feel successful, safe, and most of all in control.

So, during this time of transition from summer to fall, re-create your family schedule. You’ll be pleased by the outcome!

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